Love Does: 5 Things To Do With Your Kids (The P.A.R.T.S. of Discipleship, part II)

11-26-whyweregettingdiscipleshipwrong_438578189Growing up I loved playing with action figures. My personal favorite was Spiderman. No matter if I were in the car, at home, at a friend’s house, or out with family, if I had my Spiderman action figure, I was fighting crime and saving the day.  I believe we are innately wired for action as humans, so it’s natural that we connect with others while doing stuff! In our series, The P.A.R.T.S. of Discipleship, we’re taking a closer look at the 5 keys to discipling our kids. Last week, we discussed the importance of and practical applications of PRAYER. This week, I want to take a closer look at ACTION.

Part II of Discipleship – Action

We’re called as Christians to love through our actions (1 John 3:18). God showed us His love through sending Jesus (John 3:16). Jesus showed us His love through sacrifice (Romans 5:8). Christ told us to go and make disciples (Matthew 28:19-20). James challenges Christians to show their faith through their works (James 2:18). The common denominator in all these passages (and there are many more) is action. The very the act of following Christ requires movement (Matthew 4:19). Therefore, as we disciple our children, let’s remember to include action in the process!

Ephesians 4:1
I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called

Bob Goff in his book, Love Does, writes, “Being engaged is a way of doing life, a way of living and loving. It’s about going to extremes and expressing the bright hope that life offers us, a hope that makes us brave and expels darkness with light. That’s what I want my life to be all about – full of abandon, whimsy, and in love.” How are you sowing love to your children. And no… sowing is not a typo for showing, for I believe if we want to reap a life of love later, then we need to sow love through our actions now! What are you doing with your children on a regular basis? The old adage still rings true that more is caught than taught when raising kids. Let me offer a few words to work back into your living vocabulary on a regular basis:

  1. EAT – how often are you eating meals with your children?
  2. LISTEN – how much details do you know about your child’s life right now?
  3. DREAM – do your children know your dreams? Are you encouraging and empowering their own dreams?
  4. PLAY– When is the last time you did something intentionally fun with your kids for the purpose of having fun? When you play with your kids, you build a platform from which you can speak into their lives!
  5. SERVE – At North Ridge Community Church, we offer monthly activities for you to connect with your child through serving others in need. Coming up on October 22, you can help us with either our All-Church Work Day or Hope Walk. You’ll be amazed at how much closer you grow to each other when you serve together.

Bible Studies are good. Bible doings are better. Do your actions reflect your desires to disciple your child? Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. God’s called you to make a difference. You can do it! If you’re struggling to figure out how to improve your relationship with your child, let me offer a starting point:

  • Talk Daily – Talk through the details of your child’s day from a biblical perspective.
  • Eat Weekly – Obviously, you need to eat daily, but make an effort to at least spend one meal a week dedicated to deeper connection with your child. Grab a coffee, make a meal together, go to your favorite restaurant. The key is being intentional.
  • Serve Monthly – Create a habit for serving others together. By placing the priority on the needs of others, you help keep yourself and your child humble.
  • Travel Yearly – If possible, find a time to get away with your kids to connect on both a playful and spiritual level. When you travel together, you’re investing in their future memories, as well as building a foundation of family connection you can lean on during stressful times.

As always, I hope you find this material helpful. I would love to hear from you the ways you’re connecting with your kids for the purpose of discipleship.

God bless,

Jon Kragel
High School Pastor
North Ridge Community Church


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